I used to get up at 6:30 am every day, sit on my front porch and drink coffee while I read in my Bible and prayed. Back then, I had 2 small children and my husband was deployed.
Six kids later, mornings are filled with breastfeeding and diapers and preparations for school that day. I hit the ground running and don’t slow down until about 2 pm.
But you’re not allowed to have Quiet Time at 2 pm are you?
Oh wait. It’s not exactly quiet at 2 pm either…or 3 or 4 pm…or even 8 or 9 pm. And once I have the children in bed, there’s time with my husband that needs to find its time slot too.
What’s a busy mom to do about Quiet Time?
Well, first of all, don’t go looking up the words “Quiet Time” in your concordance because they aren’t there. While I understand the reasoning and heart behind Quiet Time as a specific event, I think women have made it a hill to die on.
Wrong hill, folks. Climb down and let’s talk.
Time with the Lord is not supposed to be something you check off a list or turn on and off at will. Quiet time isn’t a measure of your worth or your holiness, and we shouldn’t feel the need to look down at our shoes and mutter something guilt-ridden when asked about our “Quiet Time” by another well-meaning mother.
But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy
1 Peter 3:15a
Jesus came down the hardest on the Pharisees, who went through all the outward motions of being followers of God, but whose hearts were anything but the Lord’s.
No, I’m not calling people who have a set Quiet Time Pharisees, but I am saying that Quiet Time is not what personifies a holy life.
I believe you should have Quiet Time all day long in order to lead a holy life.
I know a few of you are wondering how in the world you are going to manage that if you can’t even find 2 seconds of quiet in your day. This post is especially for you: the weary mom who feels guilty over not doing the Quiet Time thing right.
No More Guilt
Quiet Time in the traditional sense usually involves reading your Bible, meditating on the Scripture, and praying. The purpose is learning about the Lord, seeking His wisdom, and drawing closer to Him. All of this put together is worship.
Worship Where You Are!
I want to encourage you to learn about the Lord, seek His wisdom, and draw closer to Him all day long. Yes, have Quiet Time all day long! Here’s how…
Moms (and especially homeschool moms) have a unique privilege of teaching Scripture to their children during the daytime hours and in every day life. While I believe a father should be the guiding force of the faith in the home, the mother gets to be the one who nurtures her children in the faith.
As we teach, we learn about the Lord!
Your Bible Time with the children should be deep and rich. Noah’s Ark as a fun story about a flood and a rainbow is totally missing the point and potentially starving you and your children of the meat of the Gospel. Your time spent in the Word with your children can be just as rich and rewarding as a 6:30 am Quiet Time.
Resources for Bible Time:
*You need a good Bible for every child, even the non-readers. Make sure everyone has the same version, so when you read, they can follow along! We like ESV for readability.
*A deep devotional. Feed your kids and yourself meat!
What About Meditating on Scripture?
One thing I am starting back up with my children is memory work. I have not done a good job of this in many years and I need to get back to it. I intend to work on the same Scriptures my children are working on so we can hold each other accountable.
A great resource for Scripture Memory is this series from Grace & Truth Books:
Place Scripture around your home.
Sing Scripture songs.
Listen to Bible teachings during the day.
Ask your husband to read Scripture to you.
What About Prayer?
Someday I will have more time to devote to prayer, but that doesn’t mean my prayers will be any more sincere and heartfelt than they are right now.
I have become adept at seeing or hearing of a need and stopping right that second to pray. I pray as I write, as I send emails, as I bathe the children, and as I cook dinner (remember my apron prayers?). The Lord doesn’t somehow hear me better in a quiet house.
There is No Formula.
Mothers naturally lean toward a guilt-ridden state of mind because we fear doing something wrong. Please know that just because you aren’t following some formula you’ve somehow “messed up”. God is not keeping a tally of how many times you had Quiet Time and how many times you failed to make it out to the porch with your Bible and coffee.
God doesn’t want your 6:30 am sacrifice. He wants your entire day!