Years ago, a Sunday School teacher told me I was depriving my son by not pretending there was an Easter bunny. It was a painfully strange conversation, and I ended up having to explain to my son that not everyone knew that the Easter Bunny and Santa Claus were really their parents, and it wasn’t his job to tell them so.
It’s not that I’m a bunny-hater or that I even really care if you tell your kids that a fat man in a red suit brings their Christmas presents. We just chose to avoid these holiday “extras”. Frankly, I don’t have the time and energy to make up stories and then follow through with the production it takes to perpetuate those stories. Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny are too much work, and we haven’t found them to add anything to the celebrations of the season.
But, what about the Tooth Fairy?
She’s not a holiday icon. She makes losing teeth fun, and surely I would allow my children this one little pleasure in life?
Nope. In the Roberts household, teeth falling out of your head on their own does not garner you a pay day.
Work hard – Work cheerfully – Go above and beyond – those things will reap rewards. Natural phenomena do not.
I know we sound like we don’t have any fun, but truth be told, we don’t need a fairy who collects teeth to have fun around here. My children have fun memories, just like you and I have fun memories. Just because they are not the same memories doesn’t mean they are somehow not as fun. I’m not depriving my child if I choose to avoid Halloween, Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, or the Tooth Fairy. These aren’t essentials to a happy childhood, and I refuse to feel guilty for not populating my children’s lives with make believe people. Parenting from guilt is way too prevalent these days, and it’s not doing our children any good to have parents who second guess every decision they make based on how it might make their children “feel”. I want to be the kind of mom who nurtures and mothers and enjoys her children without a lot of extras.
Now, perhaps you are wondering what my children do with their teeth…
They collect them in jars.
…and sometimes, I think having a tooth fairy who takes the teeth and disposes of them would have been rather convenient. 😉