Once again, we are on the road looking for a house to call a home in our new city. I say “once again” because just a week and a half ago, we were up there for 3 days looking. In fact, I had hoped this post would be a post telling you we had found the perfect home.
Actually, we HAD found the perfect home. At least, that is what WE thought. However, the number of children in our household presented an issue and the quaint Craftsman bungalow in the historic district disintegrated before our eyes. (keep in mind, we rent…and like it that way)
But, I had been praying.
I had been praying all along that if God didn’t want us in that house, He would make it very clear. Even though everything about that house seemed perfect (except for the fact that the kitchen was even SMALLER than my current kitchen…I know, I know…I was willing to make it work…you should have seen this house!), for some reason this was not the house for us. And after a few tears, I accepted that.
Our search for a just-right home has left me pondering many things. I thought I’d share those random thoughts with you and possibly spark a bit of discussion…
*Many of the newer homes were lacking 2 things that are quite important to us: a front porch and a large enough dining room. Is it any coincidence our society is lacking the very things that require a front porch and a large dining room? I think not. We have very little sense of community and very little sense of family these days.
Front porches are an antiquated notion as no one sits out on the front porch anymore. No one calls across the street to their neighbor from their porch swing. No one hangs out in the front yard where they might be seen.
And the dining room is not the gathering place of family members. There is no need for a large dining room table with room for guests. In fact, there is no need for a table at all, as we have a wonderfully engaging TV to sit in front of. Bring on the tray tables!
*Many of the houses we looked at had no character. They were just rooms. Gone are the days of meticulous craftsmanship. Houses have become assembly-line cookie cutters. We drove through many neighborhoods that left us wondering if we would be able to find our home at night, as they all looked exactly alike. I realize it is much easier to churn out copycat homes and few people actually live in their homes (most just kind of crash there at night), but wouldn’t it be fun to bring back the days of uniquely crafted homes?
*Homes in the “good” school districts cost a lot more, whether I send my child to school there or not. Everyone wanted to tell us about the great school down the street. We politely told them it didn’t really matter to us since we homeschool. It left me wondering why they thought they could charge more just because the school was great. I’m thinking the great schools must only have students from well-to-do families because these houses were outrageously priced…in my ever so humble opinion. Seems, I dunno…discriminatory?
*The houses are bigger. The families are smaller. How much square footage do we really need? My grandmother had 4 children in a tiny house and didn’t allow anything under the beds so she could sweep. Our friends with 10 kids lived in a garage for 5 years while they built their very modest new home. Our friends with 6 kids live in a travel trailer. Yet, today’s family with 2 children NEEDS 2500 square feet or they feel cramped. Seriously? Yep, seriously. I even found myself rethinking what I thought I NEEDED.
Today, we have 2 houses lined up to look at. The rental market is tight and houses don’t last long there, but I do believe God has the right house for us somewhere up there. Until then, this is our home.