Discipling a child according to the Bible with logical consequences can feel overwhelming at times. That’s why this If – Then Chart is such a useful tool!
What is an If – Then Chart?
Many moons ago, I was introduced to the concept of an If/Then Chart. Many of you have probably seen or heard about the one from Doorposts or the one from Titus 2 Ministries. More obscure, but popular just the same in homeschooling circles (and one I highly recommend!), is the Wise Words For Moms by Ginger Hubbard.
In case you aren’t familiar with If/Then Charts, let me give you a brief explanation…
They are often used for discipline and training of children. IF the child does such-and-such, THEN the child is disciplined in this manner. Ginger Hubbard’s chart not only gives the what-not-to-do’s, but also the what-to-do’s. The ones I’ve listed are Scripture based and give parents a quick-glance tool for instructing children.
Often you are given the ability to write in your own method of discipline, but for someone like me, that is just too much slack in the reins.
That is why I’m offering this FREE If – Then Chart that is already filled out for you!
This is not my own original work, but rather a chart I came across years ago. As far as I can tell, it is no longer available online and the woman who originally created it is no longer blogging at the only address I ever had for her. (You’ll see in the comments section that I did indeed connect with the original author who was happy to see this chart was still available somewhere!)
Discipline with Scripture and logical consequences
Here’s how the chart works: Basically, you have a list of behaviors (the “IF” side), a center section with Scripture that speaks to that behavior, and a consequence of said behavior on the far right (the “THEN” side). You simply look up the behavior the child is exhibiting, find the consequence, and through Scripture help them to understand why they are being disciplined with that particular punishment.
The punishment always fits the crime and you don’t have to think too much about how to discipline certain behaviors!
A couple of things to note:
- “Isolation” in the Penalties section at the bottom of the second page – the amount of time I isolate depends on the age of the child. Be reasonable, and never isolate a child beyond how long they can comprehend the “why” behind their isolation.
- “Chastisement” can be a couple of different things. I used to consider it the highest form of punishment your family has. However, after researching a bit more, I discovered that it can also mean “verbal reprimand.”
The thing that I like best about If -Then Charts is that you are not randomly scrambling around trying to find an appropriate punishment for undesirable behaviors. You have a handy little chart all made up for you explaining the why and the how for both you and the child to plainly see. Consistency, which more often than not is the name of the game, is easy to be had with the help of an If -Then Chart.