I remember as a new homeschool mom meeting all these wonderful Christian leaders in the homeschool movement and being blown away by what they had to say. I wanted to implement every single thing I heard spoken from their mouths.
But, all of that would come crashing down when I was in my own home with my own family. I would quickly realize family worship time wasn’t going to look like all the children lined up neatly and quietly on the couch and my homeschool day wasn’t going to be a streamlined well-oiled machine.
And my husband. Oh, my husband. He wasn’t nearly serious enough to really lead our home the way the men I heard speaking at homeschool conventions led their homes.
We were destined to fail. I just knew it. All because we weren’t serious enough.
But, I was determined to try to be just what I saw of these godly families. I would starch and iron my entire family into this mold because surely this was the only way we could ever achieve true success as a homeschooling family.
And my husband. Oh, my husband. I would scowl at him and put him in his place until he stayed there. I would make him be the serious leader of our family, the head of our household, exactly like those other men.
We would all be perfectly…miserably.
Sounds lovely, doesn’t it?
Sadly, I know I’m not the only one who has tried to recreate perceptions of homeschool leaders based on an hour or two spent listening to them speak from a podium some 50 yards away. We believe we have a true picture of these leaders when really we have about 1% of their lives shown to us in that amount of time. They don’t want to be on the pedestal we homeschool moms have put them on. And they certainly don’t want us to hack away at our husbands in the hopes that someday our husbands will be just like them.
In fact, here’s a little secret…their children do not always sit in neat rows and their homeschool day is not always a well-oiled machine. And they are not serious all the time. Certainly, they are serious when they talk about serious things (just like my husband), but at home, they are different (just like my husband). And sometimes they mess up (just like my husband…just like me!)
It is wonderful to have godly men and godly women and godly families to learn from and grow through, but we must never forget that only God is perfect and it is in His image we are created; therefore, it is Him we seek to reflect and not Mr. Homeschool Convention Speaker.
Your family is unique. Your family is precious. Don’t squander them running after false perceptions. Love them where they are. Be challenged and grow without stomping on them along the way. Pray blessings upon them and thanksgiving for their lives.
And enjoy them.