I am one of those people who loves to learn new things. I see some crafty thing at a store or in a magazine and I immediately think, “I should try that!” If I tried to learn every new thing I think would be fun to learn, I would be busy 24 hours a day for the next 7 years.
Several years ago I had a friend who could frost a mean birthday cake. Somewhere in my quest to know all things crafty, I thought it was something I should try. I quickly realized it was much more profitable to patronize my local supermarket than to spend all day decorating a cake that had no chance of turning out looking like something edible, let alone something festive.
It was then I discovered I did not HAVE to be good at everything in order to be a good homemaker, wife, and mother.
This is a difficult lesson for many of us. We live in a day and age when so much information is right at our fingertips. We peruse Pinterest and Instagram, or open the latest homeschooling magazine, or watch the newest baking show on Food Network, and we somehow think everything there is necessary to our day.
We believe we must know how to knit and crochet exquisitely, bake perfect pies and whole wheat bread, sew our own clothes, raise goats and chickens for market, reupholster the couch, paint a landscape, build triple bunk beds, throw pottery, tend a vegetable garden, tile a floor, change the oil in the van, play praise hymns on the guitar, and refinish the dining room table before we will ever be worthy of the title of homemaker.
We believe that until then, we just aren’t quite good enough.
We live our lives in Someday Mode.
Someday, I’ll know…
Someday, I’ll do…
Someday, I’ll be…
We think we have nothing to offer because we haven’t mastered all there is to master in the homemaking realm. We live our lives as Jill of All Trades, Master of None…just skimming the surface and always feeling inadequate.
We hope someday when we are all grown up, we will be able to be the women mentioned in Titus 2, but somewhere deep down inside of us, we’re scared we won’t ever measure up. We won’t ever be mature enough to be a Titus 2 woman.
That simply isn’t true.
Being the younger of the Titus 2 women doesn’t mean we live in ignorance simply because we’ve not parented anyone older than 4, just as being the older of the Titus 2 women doesn’t mean we suddenly know it all the moment we’re sportin’ grey hairs.
Being a Titus 2 woman means as we learn, we share.
It naturally follows that an older woman will have learned more in her years as a wife and mother than a young woman, but it does not mean there is some magical age when we suddenly cross over from young to old, from nothing to offer to everything to offer.
2 Corinthians 1:4 tells us that our trials should equip us to comfort others in the same way we have been comforted by the Lord. Our experiences in the body of Christ are all different. We have been comforted in many different ways and through many different circumstances. We have learned different things and now have different skills.
We share what we’ve learned as we learn what others share.
In this way being a Titus 2 woman is not about age, but about experience.
God expects us to use our experiences to edify and comfort others. This is the essence of Titus 2…passing on what the Lord has taught us in a very purposeful manner.
So what if I don’t know everything about everything.
I probably don’t know everything about ANYTHING because I could always learn more!
But, just as Titus 2 women are teachers, Titus 2 women are TEACHABLE.
There will always be areas where I could use some learnin’, but I had better know how to keep my ears open and my mouth shut during those times. And I might even have to work hard and root out some rather difficult behaviors in my life in order to implement the wisdom shared with me. Refining takes fire and fire is only pleasant when viewed from a distance.
So, this is my encouragement to you…
1. Don’t hide the wisdom the Lord has cultivated in your life because you think you are too young to be a bona fide older Titus 2 woman.
2. Be teachable no matter your age!
3. Seek opportunities to edify and be edified by other women who strive to be godly wives and homemakers. (don’t forget those young women who share your home!)
4. Embrace your strengths and admit your weaknesses. Be satisfied with the skills the Lord has blessed you with and rejoice over the abilities He has blessed others with.
5. May the Lord ALWAYS be glorified by what you say and do!
A Titus 2 woman is not someone we will be someday. She is who we strive to be everyday no matter if we are young or old or somewhere in between. Teach and be taught, lead and be lead, love and laugh and grow. Be a Titus 2 woman!
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Originally published on August 7, 2009. Updated on April 26, 2022.